In order to adopt a new habit, you have to unlearn an old one and replace it with a new way of thinking and behaviour.
Having a plan for how to react is the key to breaking old habits. Over the last 9 weeks, we hope you’ve had a few light bulb moments that will give you a new confidence and way forward when it comes to maintaining your resilience and supporting others.
On average it takes around 66 days before a new behaviour becomes automatic.
It’s not easy and it if we don’t continue to develop our self-awareness we can fall back into our old patterns of thinking and behaviours, especially when we feel pressured and stressed.
Over the course of the programme we’ve showed you 60 key skills.
We’re realistic; we know you’ve got a lot on and that some of the skills will prove more useful to some than others. You’ve probably already started to favour one skill over another and perhaps decided which ones aren’t relevant or helpful to you.
It’s normal to want dismiss some of the skills or frameworks and tell ourselves ‘it doesn’t apply to me’ ‘it’s too hard’ or ‘I don’t have time’. In some situations, feeling uncomfortable with using some of the skills can mean they might be the most relevant and meaningful to you.
Life will throw you curve balls That’s why we’ve designed the Skill Checkers on your on-line Skills Academy.
Each week, pop a note in your diary to visit these Skill Checkers and take one modular session at a time. They’re designed to get you thinking and will give you clarity and reassurance on the skills you are currently using and those skills that can act as a development area for you. Remember, the secret to real and lasting change lies in your daily routine. Be brave and start your Skill Checkers today!
Once you’ve spent time on your first Skill Checker and found your chosen skills
set yourself a personal action plan and break it into chunks throughout your day. For example, if grab the good is a skill you’ve identified as meaningful to you and a need to practice more, set yourself the task of ‘before lunch I will spend 5 minutes grabbing the good’. Then track your completion of that task throughout the week using the ‘yes list’. It’s a simple and effective way to keep track on when you’ve done the task and reflect on how you are getting on.
Place your ‘yes list’ at your desk or somewhere you will see it and if necessary create a daily reminder to fill it out throughout out the day.
Do you see your resilience as integral to YOU and those around you?
We’d suggest the ‘yes list’ is a great way to start. The Skill Checkers will help you break your development areas down into manageable chunks you can practice and play with to start making a difference today.
Want more? Remember to sign-up to the APP, the 2-minute videos and More-On’s are a great way to keep the skills front of mind.
Visit your Direction and Drive module and use the printable worksheets to start using these skills to set yourself a clear direction on further developing and maintaining your resilience today.
Remember to involve others
Revisit your workbook challenges for ideas on how to practice and use the skills with those around you.
Take a work colleague for a coffee and chat about some of the skills that mean the most to you both.
Please note: This post was specifically written for people attending the final session of our nine-week resilience programme where we showed you how to action plan the skills to become part of you and the people around you.