You may need someone else to ask you the questions. Be brave and continue as things will start to make sense and you will eventually arrive at your Iceberg belief.
Start with the first question and ask any of the questions (from 1-4) in ANY order and keep going until you hit it. You will know when you do.
Think of a time in the last week when your FIRES have been ignited, and we mean really ignited. Now ask yourself the 4 questions.