Resilience Drop Newsletter – February 2023

Social connections at work has many benefits for your emotional and mental wellbeing. Here's 4 ways to boost connection at work.

Connection is an essential element of resilience, so it’s concerning that research by BetterUp in early 2022 shows that nearly 5 out of 10 of us don’t feel connected at work.

If you are feeling alone, adrift, or have just lost that energy you once had at work, read on.

Friends with benefits?

People who experience more connection at work achieve goals more often, greater wellbeing, better relationships and grow more professionally. When we feel more connected at work, everyone benefits.

Of course, we all think of connection differently, so you might like to think of three workplace-connected profiles:

The Close Friend: For 4 in 10 people, connection means holistic bonds in and out of the workplace. They talk about hopes, dreams, and concerns and share personal dramas.

The Friendly Colleague: 5 in 10 prefer keeping it all on “friendly” terms with coworkers. They might have a bit of banter or share small details about family etc., but it’s surface-level. Inner lives and external concerns aren’t on the agenda.

Strictly Professional: 1 in 10 feel connected if they can smile and wave as they leave the team environment and others understand their roles. They don’t need to share the family and friends stuff.

What’s your type? How about others on your team? Your manager? Your reports? Do you see any mismatches?

How to boost your connection at work

Connecting got harder. WFH, hybrid working and virtual meetings all add up to fewer opportunities to connect. So how can we boost our connectedness? Here are four steps that can help:

1. Identify your connection profile.

Do you prefer close friends, friendly colleagues or keeping it strictly professional? Being honest with yourself helps you identify your needs.

2. Ask others what they prefer.

Have a team conversation about connection and establish where people are at. If you’ve been on our resilience programmes, this should be easier as one of the modules is devoted to connection. With so much lack of connection around, people will be relieved to talk about it.

3. Prioritise connection

Keeping connected takes effort. Set aside time to have open-ended conversations. Alter meetings to include moments of unstructured time and check-in with people. It may all feel inefficient in your busy schedule. Trust me. The effort does pay off.

4. Link to mental health

It’s easy to bring mental health awareness down to “take care of yourself” instead of caring for each other. Whilst we all have different needs in connection, a lack of it leads to disengagement, anxiety, depression and loneliness. Poor mental health is a community issue before it’s a clinical issue. Focusing on connection helps people build more community at work.

Check-in with someone today and take some time to build a connection.

Listen, Watch, Learn

🎧 Listen

In this podcast from TED Business, Katie and Modupe dig deep into what it takes to build healthier relationships at work.

🎥 Watch

In this TedX Talk watch Marie Schneegans describe her experience of working in the banking sector: stress, burnouts and little interaction between people.


For a slightly different spin on connection in the workplace, read this blog from officevibe, which focuses on maintaining connections across remote teams.

💭 Finally, a quote to get you thinking:

" I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship. We are like islands in the sea, separate on the surface but connected in the deep." ​

Did you know we offer 1:1 coaching? We are here if you have any feedback, questions or comments. We love, read and reply to every email.

This article was written by: 

Share this:  


More from our blog:


The Power of Effective Communication in Managing Stress and Building Resilience

In today’s fast-paced world, resilience isn’t just a nice-to-have—it’s a must-have. With stress levels on the rise and our well-being on the line, effective communication is like the unsung hero of handling stress and keeping it together. Your people skills can be the key to a healthier, more productive life with balance. In this article, we’re diving into how good communication can transform your stress management game, helping you build unbeatable resilience. It’s not just a bonus; it’s essential in both your personal and professional life.

Read More »