We all get stuck. Stuck means you can’t see any ways forward or you only see one way forward and you don’t like it. So how do you get unstuck?
We all get stuck at some point in our lives and it often happens when we’ve stopped listening to ourselves and what we need. The routine hum drum of modern life; waking up and going to work only to get home, go to bed and do it all again the next day can often leave us feeling uninspired and unmotivated. Feeling the pressures to perform, be at our best and succeed can also make us feel stuck. Hearing yourself saying “I should” or “I have to” are great sign of a need to direct our energy yet feeling a little stuck on the actual direction we are taking.
We all know when we are stuck
It’s a feeling. It can be uncomfortable, sad, even oppressive and depressing. Perhaps we are waiting for something to happen? A lucky break, a change in priorities, circumstances, perspective or just wishing someone would come along and make that tough decision for us. When we are stuck we feel the need to grow and expand but just can’t find either the energy or ways to move forward. Being stuck can and often is a tough place to be so learning how to open up new ideas and pathways is a key resilience skill that once mastered can keep you motivated.
Here are 5 ways to get unstuck:
1.Take a risk
Have you been operating in your comfort zone? What would you do if you knew it was impossible to fail? Or perhaps you’ve been indulging yourself in ideas that are way out there and need to take a risk on progressing the obvious. It may sound simple and too easy but what would your parents, colleagues or close friends tell you to?
2. Let go of the past
The past is a nice place to visit but it can be a lousy place to stay. If we are not careful our past can define us and chain us to a reality that has gone rather than is coming. Remember the navigating iceberg skill and how we showed you that sometimes our belief and what we are telling our self can be self-limiting? It’s easy to say “I can’t do that” because of what happened in the past.
3. Change your relationship with being stuck
What if you changed from being stuck to feeling stuck? What if you just decided that it’s ok to feel stuck for the moment and give yourself a break? Your brain is amazing and sometimes just being ok with being stuck and focusing on something else can provide you with the answer to your problem when you least expect it.
4. Get out of the way of yourself
Sorry to be harsh but sometimes our perspective can just get in the way of thinking things through and seeing the way forward. You know the saying “you can’t see the wood for the trees?” Well that really captures the essence here. Being stuck is often a symptom of something else. For example; it could be that your life is about to change or actually needs to change. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable about it, allow yourself to enjoy something new without any expectation of what might be acceptable.
5. Finally, take 20 minutes and check your thinking with the Probortunity tool
Probortunity is a great tool to use when the above just isn’t cutting it. If you need to really get down to what’s going on, challenge your thinking and generate new possibilities then this is where it’s at. Feeling stuck on something now? What are you waiting for….go and probortunity it!
Please note: This post was specifically written for people attending week six of our nine-week resilience programme where we showed you how to make resilient decisions and avoid bias in your thinking.