How we feel and think about the world around us, affects our mindset and all aspects of our life
The Mail online recently reported a 2000 people strong survey identifying the top 10 reasons why we get out of bed feeling grumpy:
- Having a bad night’s sleep
- Waking up earlier than you needed to
- Wet or cold weather
- Waking up still tired
- Not wanting to go to work
- Knowing you have a busy or difficult day ahead
- Waking up thinking it’s Friday and realise it’s not
- Sleeping through your alarm/your alarm not going off
- A bad journey to work
Researchers also found that three quarters of Britons admit they wake up in a bad mood on an average of two mornings a week with 70% of people admitting their morning mood has led to an argument with someone.
Do we really live in a society that allows the weather to dictate our mood and our relationships with those around us?
It’s a great example of out of proportion thinking where we allow our emotions to completely overwhelm and dictate our thinking, behaviour and ultimately our health. As an ex – military specialist I found these reasons particularly amusing. How often do military personnel have to ignore weather and the amount of sleep they have in order to perform at the highest levels. Yes, they are trained to do so but they also have a grip on their thinking, it’s not their emotions that are driving their thinking it’s their thinking that’s driving their emotion – I may be cold and wet yet I can keep doing what needs to be done.
Harsh as it sounds, the reality is that these top 10 reasons are largely self-inflicted. It’s all in the mindset and “grumpiness” is a choice. If we took a step back and put things in perspective, would these reasons really validate grumpy and argumentative behaviour? Is a bad journey to work really enough to compromise our performance and wellbeing for the rest of the day?
How to banish grumpiness for a better day
If you are one of the many people who wake up grumpy when the weather is bad it’s because you are telling yourself to be grumpy there is no other reason for it. So next time you wake up feeling grumpy as a result of something relatively trivial, try tuning into what you are saying to yourself in your head because the chances are that your thoughts will be negative. Ask yourself will this reason matter in a year from now? Next time you are expecting a particularly busy or difficult day ahead of you or you’ve slept through your alarm ask yourself these 3 key questions:
- What’s the best-case scenario?
- What’s the worst-case scenario?
- What is the most likely?
It’s a great way to challenge your emotions and put things in perspective for a much happier, productively and stress free day. The reality is that how we feel and think about the world around us directly affects our mindset and all aspects of our life. Learning to tune in to our thinking and using simple techniques to make sure our thinking is accurate means less stress, and a lot less grumpiness.